Toxic Relationship, How to Tell If You Are In One and Mend My Broken Heart

So many of us are in toxic relationships where we feel as though our hearts are being ripped out of our chests yet we do nothing to change it. To heal your broken heart, you need take a serious look at your partner and how the two of you are together, do you think you are with the right person? Are you just settling because you feel there is no one out there better suited for you or are you just scared of being alone?

Most of the time we tend not to trust our own feelings or intuitions. Our decisions are vindicated by our actions to make us feel better. In spite of everything we stay and yet deep down we know that this is not how we should be treated. My friend, Renee, only knew this too well. Josh and her were in a relationship for 2 years. In the beginning Josh was calling her all the time, getting her gifts, taking her to the nicest restaurants and generally treating her like gold. She was thrilled that he wanted marriage eventually as well when they discussed what they wanted in the relationship.

Every weekend they would spend at his house with his kids and his friends and this made Renee very happy. She never spent time with her friends because her life converted into his life. She did it all, cooked for his family, entertained his friends, cleaned his house to name just a few. She wanted to be the perfect girlfriend and hopefully, one day, a perfect wife.

Then six months into the relationship things began to cool, he wasn't calling as often and he would make up excuses not to see her. She began feeling insecure at his lack of interest. As such, she became fearful that he was seeing someone else and began calling him to ascertain as to his whereabouts. Josh push further away from Renee the more insecure she became.

The things she did were no longer appreciated by Josh. He would pull away when she touched him and he wasn't ever there when she needed his help. When people were over he would completely ignore her and flirt with other women. He would use excuses like, "We're only friends, you knew I had a lot of girl friends when we got together" or “I'm not good at this relationship stuff, but I'll try to be better" when she would sob to him each night about their relationship or the other women. He would act stunned that she even bothered to come when she turned up on Friday night. She would be feeling depressed and want things the way they used to be when she came home on Sunday night.

Was Renee with the right person? Her soul mate, did she really think it was Josh? Should Renee have continue transforming herself into something she wasn’t or should she have put a stop to the relationship?

Try this simple exercise if you think you may be in a toxic relationship:

Remove yourself from the equation and place one of your co-workers or friends in it instead. By taking your emotions out of the equation, it will allow you to look at it without bias. How could you be of assistance to these people if they came to you requesting help? It's far easier to give advice when you are not involved.

The advice you would offer them, can you follow it? You should as it is the best advice you could get because it is coming from your own gut feeling. It will be much easier to heal your broken heart if you have faith in your feelings or intuitions instead of mitigating your actions.