Mend Your Broken Heart - Getting Over A Guy

Getting over a guy can be difficult and we often need help to mend your broken heart. Whether you broke up with him or he with you, it can be tough letting go of someone you had a very close relationship. The void you experiencing in your heart and life cannot be instantly filled with just anything or anyone. Yet, people do get over a relationship. To get over the guy you still like, here are the five steps.

First, you need to let out the hurt. Understand that it is okay to cry when you are struggling to get over a guy. Writing about the pain helps, so some people keep a journal of their experiences.

One very effective healing method that I have seen some people do is to write a long letter to the ex boyfriend about their relationship. Talk about the good times and bad. Your relationship and how he hurt you needs to be told. Give yourself permission to let it all out. Upon completion of the letter, burn it. That’s correct. Don't even think about sending it to your ex. Alternatively, let the flames burn up the letter. So as to provide you with excellent closure to the relationship.

Next, you have to decide that the relationship is really over. You will never get over this guy and move on, if you continue to hold on to the thought that he will change and come back to you.

The end of the relationship needs to be finalized by something symbolic. An excellent case in point is to take all the personal property that you have of the ex boyfriend’s and exchange it. Do not keep that oh so comfort, over sized t-shirt of his that you sleep in. And, if there are things too minor to exchange (like a toothbrush), throw them away. His things need to be completely cleared out of your place. By doing this, you are cleansing your life of him.

Depending on your friends is a must through this time. Girlfriends are forever whereas guys will come and go until you meet your husband. If you have been in a hot and heavy relationship, for a time you may have accidently overlooked your friends. Not only will your girls help you get over guy, but reconnecting will be good for your social life.

You will learn that your girlfriends will have experienced break ups similar to yours. However bad the pain you are experiencing, by sharing their pain will help you to understand that others have survived and you will too.

You will quite possibly have some extra time on your hands now that you are single. You used to spend a lot of time with your ex. This extra time should be used productively to get over the guy. Take an exercise class and get in shape, or take up a new hobby.

During this transition period, one of the best things you can do is join a group or a class. Not only does a class take up the time you would have spent with your ex, but it also introduces you to a new circle of friends.

And, that brings me to my last point, when you want to get over the guy, the best thing you can do is move on. Among the new friends you make in your class or hobby, your old friends and the activities you do to fill up your time, you will come out as a new person.

The greatest way to get over a guy and mend your broken heart is by moving on.